This is as common of an issue in any relationship. I know that in the beginning, the gf is very uncomfortable with this issue and she still is. So long as she doesn’t hear about it or know about it, she’s fine but if she gets wind of it, she’ll feel uncomfortable and I can understand that. Last thing I want to do is to make the gf uncomfortable and have concerns. You just don’t want to do that to a person you love. Subtract that out of all relationships if you love the person.

So about a month ago, she told me that she can’t prevent people from having an interest in her. That was a “told you so” factor. So I assumed someone has keen interest of her. If anyone is in any type of a relationship, you know that other people will take keen interest in your mate and that is inevitable- something out of your control. What is controllable are the facts that she can control her fate and outcome of this newly sprung interest(s). How he or she handles this type of scenario all depends on how faithful they are to their mate.

Looking at the gf’s scenario, she’s told me countless of times that she can simply quell trying times such as these in a way to let the advancer know that she is uninterested in a stern manner. You can only let your mate do such parry to offset the balance between what’s black and white. To keep things simple, don’t let things out of hand i.e. don’t extend your friendship into a [could be] blooming relationship. It’s okay to have friends but it’s not okay to be friends with someone who has interests in you (just think of how you would feel if the roles were switched). You should be fending these outliers with wit and etiquette yet subtle and ferocious tenderness. This act is reciprocal. This is an act of commitment.

I beg to differ but I was one without worries of these situations. What would only make me worry is for the fact that I have mistreatd my significant other. Think of it this way… If you don’t listen to your mate, they’ll find someone else whom will listen to them. No matter how boring or uninterested you are, always bear mind to give an ear or two. The fact is, if I was mistreated, I would look elsewhere from whom will treat me with more compassion. Even a dog knows when its ill treated and will jump the fence for greener pastures. We are better than dogs I suppose.

I have no idea who likes her but I know someone does. It doesn’t bother me but what bothers me is if she doesn’t try to avoid it. Go figure, who wouldn’t be bothered? She once said, “why would I look at other women when I have her to look at everyday” and in a sense, if I did look at other women with slivery tactful eyes, hell would decends upon me like black on white. She’s right of course, I don’t need other women to look at, just her would be sufficient. She will have many other men who will have interest in her even during marriage if you want to take it that far and all I can do is trust in her judgement for my own sanity.

This is only an assumption and I won’t press this issue on her. She’ll press it on me though but thats her being her and I don’t blame her womenly intuitions one bit. If she decides to tell me about it, she will in time. If not, than I’m perfectly content as well. This would only show how much she values my views of her ordeal and the trust that she has in me.